Legal Eaze #27 Children Custody/ Common Law Marriage

Title: July 27, 2005

Maxine de Villefranche is an attorney and civil general practitioner with 13 years of experience. She operates her law practice from her new office in town, as well her Lancaster satellite office. She will answer legal questions posed to her by the readers, to the best of her abilities. Please forward your questions to maxinedev@msn.com or fax them to (661)825-8880.

Q. My brother has custody of his two young children, a 6-year old boy and a 4-yeard old girl. My brother has been out of work for the last 8 months while his new girlfriend goes to work in Bakersfield everyday. Just a couple of weeks ago, I walked in my brother’s house, uninvited, and found him unconscious in the living room, sprawled on the couch, with a syringe stuck in his arm. Both children were crying hysterically. I called an ambulance and he was taken to the hospital. He overdosed on drugs and had I not come in, he would have died. His girlfriend does not seem to have a clue as to what he was up to. What should we do?
A. If you want to help your brother, you need to either return the children to their mother or if that is not an available solution, you need to petition for temporary guardianship of these children until your brother goes into and completes a drug rehab program. At this point, his actions are endangering the lives of his children and if Children Protective Services (CPS) hears of this situation, the children may be taken away from your brother and placed into foster care. Since you are “family”, these children would be better off remaining in your care, if you are in a position to take care of them.
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for the last 22 years. I mentioned to him that we should get married, but he says that we are already married because we have been living together for so long. Is this true?
A. No, it is not. There is no such thing as “common law marriage” in California. You are not married and unless you apply for a marriage license and go through either a civil marriage or a religious one, you will remain “boyfriend and girlfriend”. Maybe he just does not want to get married. But as long as you are not married, you have little legal protection as to the property you purchase together, not to mention that any children you have together may eventually suffer because they are illegitimate.